Written by Jessie Sage, originally published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. The term “demisexual” was coined in 2006 on the forums of the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN), but it’s only been in the last year or so that I started to see it commonly embraced as an identity, especially on social media platforms and […]
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What to consider before visiting a swinger club
Written by Jessie Sage, originally published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. I was in the Netherlands the first time I went to a swinger club. Neither my partner at the time nor I had been to Europe, and we had certainly never been to a sex club. Without really knowing what we were getting into, we […]
Why going into sex work isn’t as easy as it sounds
Written by Jessie Sage, originally published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. As a writer who openly reflects on my own experiences in the sex industry, I often have folks of all genders tell me that they are interested in becoming sex workers. When I ask them why they are considering sex work, their answers overwhelmingly fall […]
A Guide to Being a Good Strip Club Customer Part 2: women and couples
Written by Jessie Sage, originally published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. Last week I talked to three Pittsburgh-based strippers — Eden, Iris, and Sheena — and asked them what people could do to be good customers and to have positive experiences in a strip club. What I noticed in talking to all three of them is that the […]
A guide to being a good strip club customer
Written by Jessie Sage, originally published in Pittsburgh City Paper. Several weeks ago, I found myself in a conversation with a group of Pittsburgh-based strippers who were sharing the nitty-gritty frustrations of customer interactions. It seems important for people to know this stuff, so I decided to reach out to three current and former full-time dancers […]
We need to think about what we say regarding sexual abuse allegations
Written by Jessie Sage, originally published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. On June 21, columnist E. Jean Carroll published an excerpt from her new memoir, What Do We Need Men For?, in New York magazine, alleging a violent assault by President Trump more than 20 years ago in a Bergdorf Goodman dressing room. She joins more than 20 women […]
How to handle coming out as a 30-something, married bi-sexual
Written by Jessie, originally published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. I’m a 30-something woman who recently came out as bisexual after years of dating only men. But now I’m wondering how to deal with this new identity, as I’m currently married to a wonderful man. I’ve spoken with my husband about wanting to be with a […]
How phone sex is like a job interview — a very sexy job interview
Written by Jessie Sage, originally published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. Lying on my bed, I talk to a new phone sex client. I am trying to feel out his desires. I ask him about his past, his sexual experiences, and his unfulfilled fantasies. We casually discuss his feelings about his body, what turns him on, […]
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