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Written by Jessie Sage, originally Published in Pittsburgh City Paper. Three weeks ago, a Kickstarter campaign launched for a piece of technology aimed at improving couples’ communication about sex. LoveSync promises a solution to mismatched libidos. It offers “an entirely new way to increase your sexual frequency and boost your romantic relationship with the simple press […]

Written by Jessie Sage, originally Published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. There’s a popular meme among sex workers that reads, “Thinking that a sex worker is going to steal your man is like thinking that a childcare provider is going to steal your child.” The analogy works because it holds a grain of truth. We do […]

Written by Jessie Sage, originally Published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. Dear Jessie, From what I have seen online, I have the sense that foot fetishism, including smelling feet and tickling, is quite common in men. Is it? Is it more common in men than in women? What triggers these desires in a man? Max Dear […]

Written by Jessie Sage, originally published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. As someone who does phone sex and is a member of poly and queer communities, one of the first things new acquaintances ask me is: Are you dominant or submissive? Top or a bottom? Or, more generally: What are you into? What are your kinks? […]

Written by Jessie Sage, originally published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. Sex workers hold men’s secrets. Many of these secrets are the type you’d expect. They talk to us about their marriage frustrations, the kinks that they are afraid to tell their partners about, their anxieties, their relationship regrets, and the panties they wear under their […]

Written by Jessie Sage, originally published by the Pittsburgh City Paper. Can single women trust couples looking for a third on online dating apps? Dear Jessie, Signed, Tri-Curious Dear Tri-Curious, There’s a lot of stigma around couples who are looking for a third partner for either a casual threesome, or for a more serious dating situation. […]

Discussing body representation with a Pittsburgh-based body-positive figurative artist If you were paying attention to social media in 2018, you may have noticed that major platforms such as Tumblr, Facebook, Instagram, and Patreon severely restricted, or altogether banned, adult content and nudity. This type of censorship has real and serious consequences to many marginalized communities. […]

Written by Jessie Sage, originally Published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. I often get asked how I got into sex work. I understand that my own story is not representative of many folks, but it is my story and it looks something like this. I got my start in sex work on a cam site. For […]