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Written by Jessie Sage, originally Published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. Dear Jessie, Vaginal penetration is rather “meh” for me. Clitoral stimulation is the best way for me to climax. Everyone seems to think it’s “wrong” that I prefer clitoral stimulation over penetration. Is it normal for someone to prefer clitoral stimulation/orgasms? ~ Shy Spells ~ […]

Written by Jessie Sage, originally Published in Pittsburgh City Paper. If thousands of hours of conversations as a phone sex operator have taught me one thing, it’s that for many folks, strict monogamy is tremendously stressful. Those who have sexual desires or kinks that their partner disapproves of or doesn’t want to participate in feel shamed […]

Written by Jessie Sage, originally Published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. In 2011, TechCrunch quoted founder and CEO of Snapchat, Evan Spiegel saying, “I’m not convinced that the whole sexting thing is as big as the media makes it out to be, I just don’t know people who do that. It doesn’t seem that fun when you […]

Written by Jessie Sage, originally published in The Pittsburgh City Paper. Self-care suggestions often include activities like jogging, journaling, yoga, or therapy. But, Mr. X, an NYC-based writer, has discovered that for him, self-care means being beaten into submission by a professional dominatrix. We talked about his experiences over morning coffee. Mr. X: I first got into […]

Written by Jessie Sage, originally published in Pittsburgh City Paper. In the early 2000s, at nine months pregnant, I went to have my eyebrows threaded. I told the esthetician that my baby was due in a week, and she asked me if I wanted to add a Brazilian wax. Tired, uncomfortable, and not in the mood, […]

Aging in the Sex Work Industry Written by Jessie Sage, originally Published in The Pittsburgh City Paper. Sex workers are all too familiar with the question: What are you going to do when you aren’t young and hot anymore? We’re asked it by people critical of our jobs, and, in moments of doubt, we ask it […]

Written by Jessie Sage, originally published in Pittsburgh City Paper. In Allegheny County, any transgender person seeking to legally change their name and gender marker schedules a hearing with Judge Christine Ward. Once a month she conducts a closed-door court ceremony where each person gets to come forward with their family or support persons and be […]

Written by Jessie Sage, originally published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. In light of the upcoming midterm elections, I take a step back to talk about the way in which elections impact the lives of the sex work community. Sex work is an umbrella term that encompasses a wide array of erotic services: stripping, webcam modeling, […]